Look Where You Want To Go : Keep Showing Up!
She did 31 full Ironman’s before she won one of them. She won the Ultraman 6.2 mile swim, 260 mile bike, and double marathon 52.4 mile run, she is Hillary Biscay. “Look where you want to go, keep showing up … you’ll […]
The Family Solution: Experiential Family Treatment in St George Utah
Outpatient therapy can and is very helpful for teens and parents to work through issues and patterns that often change the entire family’s functioning. At times, it can be so complicated at home that parents consider an out of home placement. Placing your child out of the home can be a good option for many […]
Not Just Friends: Emotional Affairs and Infidelity
Overly friendly e-mails. Txts messages that are ‘off record’. Hidden Facebook dialogues. Just friends, right? No, there’s not sex, but these relationships damage marriages and are a slippery slope. Is it infidelity? You bet it is. Traditionally, the work environment has provided the most ideal context and potential for extramarital affairs. But, old flames or […]
Anxiety, Panic Attacks, and Exercise: Natural Healing And Balance
Jessica was a busy mother in her forties. She was of average build and loved her neighborhood and church relationships. Yet she was at the end of her rope. Jessica had been experiencing panic attacks for the past three years. The first time it occurred she was out running errands and while shopping for groceries […]
What Is It Most Women Really Want?
Many of my clients, both men and women, come to counseling seeking understanding and curbing of symptoms in their marriages and/or families. Most have their own stories, own perceptions, and own histories. Human beings are complex individuals with relationship histories and pasts that make each one of us all our own. As I have worked with […]
Helicopter Grandparenting: When Helping Becomes Hovering and Harming
I recently had a couple in my office for a variety of issues. We initially started to dialogue and generate some solutions concerning some significant problems they were facing. Their problem began long before their marriage, as I will explain, but had become an acute issue that was taxing their relationship and marriage as well […]
Infidelity: Marriage Meltdown After An Affair
When Betrayal Breaks the Bond I recently heard a client ask, “I feel completely betrayed after finding out about my husband’s affair. Does it even make sense to do counseling if my spouse had an affair? Isn’t it over?” Betrayal and broken trust are among the most difficult obstacles any couple can face, and they […]
Recovering Your Identity
The term identity is one commonly used by developmental psychologists and researchers when referencing an individuals sense of ‘differentness’ or ‘likeness’ with others. Ones identity is often tossed around with terms like ego strength, self-esteem, individuality, etc. Many individuals find that they need to ‘send’ or ‘broadcast’ a given set of values or beliefs in […]
Accountability, Responsibility, and Freedom : Maturity With Developing Adolescents
Teenagers bring with them a capacity to risk and explore their world similar to when they were toddlers. The difficulty is, most teens want the freedom of egocentric curious toddlers without the responsibility they need to bear as they are approaching young adulthood. Parents hope that as their son or daughter matures, he or she will […]
How Do I Know If I Need Couples or Marriage Counseling?
Often individuals feel they may be candidates for counseling but are not sure and don’t want to make things worse. I have had many clients that reported being worried prior to coming in for counseling that they might make things worse if they stirred things up and spoke out about their marriage and the issues […]