How Do I Know If I Need Couples or Marriage Counseling?
Often individuals feel they may be candidates for counseling but are not sure and don’t want to make things worse. I have had many clients that reported being worried prior to coming in for counseling that they might make things worse if they stirred things up and spoke out about their marriage and the issues […]
Insecurity: The Fuel of Relational Conflict
One of the core components of reactivity and defensiveness is personal insecurity. I work with individuals that often share how family or friends are often reactive relative to them. The difficulty with defensive individuals is that they feel they are just protecting themselves from another, that their defensiveness with their spouse or teen or coworker […]
My Spouse Won’t Come To Counseling, Now What?
Often when relationships are conflicted or distant one member of the relationship recommends counseling as a part of conversation, usually when things are loaded and a feud is underway. It is not uncommon for one spouse to be ready and the other resists or balks at the request. The layman’s assumption is that counseling needs […]
Communication in Relationships and Marriage
Healthy Relationships Communication is the path by which individuals share and exchange information about their perceptions, feelings, and thoughts. It is imperative that individuals learn to engage and connect with others in ways that promote healthy relationships and bonding within them. Many adolescents I work with and adults alike, struggle to communicate in ways that are supportive […]
Are You Committed To Your Marriage?
In my practice as a therapist I often work with couples that are seeking help with their relationship to one another. Old patterns of conflict, struggles with in-laws, insecurities that erupt into verbally caustic battles are often what lead them to seek help. They would not land in session if they were not committed on […]
Marriage Counseling, Who Needs it?
Many marry with hopes of memories and many years of love and connection with their spouse. Marriage often starts with a bang: flowers, ceremony, family, then off to the honeymoon. Too often, couples lack the skills to keep the ’spark’ they started with when they first married. Many factors enter in and make marriage more […]
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