Often when relationships are conflicted or distant one member of the relationship recommends counseling as a part of conversation, usually when things are loaded and a feud is underway. It is not uncommon for one spouse to be ready and the other resists or balks at the request. The layman’s assumption is that counseling needs…
Depression is a condition that is fueled by several factors. More often than not, laypersons think that depression is a result of a chemical imbalance based on discussion and rumor in layperson circles. Actually, it is not technically known what causes depression but we have a few solid leads on that issue. Depression can be…
Is facebook complicating relationships? Many are connecting online with old friends, distant family, and unfortunately at times old flames. Problem is, these relationships are not in ‘real’ time they are virtual relationships, ones maintained and fostered online.I spoke to a few individuals recently and one person in particular did sheepishly admit to me that she…
What makes taking risks so difficult? I’ve often heard clients, family, friends, and others talk about the difficulty in taking risks; in trying something difficult; in stepping into the unknown.Anxiety and trepidation is fueled by irrational thoughts. Thoughts like, “I can’t do that, it is far to difficult.” or “That’s not me, he can do…
It has been my experience that new clients are often unsure what to expect in the first counseling session. At times, they feel doubt about what to say or do. There can be nervousness and anxiety about opening up to someone you’re meeting for the first time, especially when you find that you are sharing difficulties…
Most individuals experience loss at some level at some point in their lives. Loss of a friend who has moved away or of a pet that passes is a common experience for children as they grow and develop. What makes loss difficult is primarily due to the attachments or bonds that are created when we…
Healthy Relationships Communication is the path by which individuals share and exchange information about their perceptions, feelings, and thoughts. It is imperative that individuals learn to engage and connect with others in ways that promote healthy relationships and bonding within them. Many adolescents I work with and adults alike, struggle to communicate in ways that are supportive…
In my practice as a therapist I often work with couples that are seeking help with their relationship to one another. Old patterns of conflict, struggles with in-laws, insecurities that erupt into verbally caustic battles are often what lead them to seek help. They would not land in session if they were not committed on…
Sleep is one of the most key elements in emotional and relational health. Sleep is a process within which your body rejuvenates. I am not referencing merely resting, it is a time when the body-mind repairs itself. It is during rapid eye movement or REM that you actually rest and your body is restored.We live…
Many marry with hopes of memories and many years of love and connection with their spouse. Marriage often starts with a bang: flowers, ceremony, family, then off to the honeymoon. Too often, couples lack the skills to keep the ’spark’ they started with when they first married. Many factors enter in and make marriage more…