3 min read All couples at one time or another will find themselves in arguments and at times “fighting”. Yes, even the healthiest couples do have conflict and verbal battles from time to time, the question is about whether or not their combative moments are in fact healthy or not. It’s important to note that…
Let’s face it much of our early childhood development is impacted by the way others love, listen, and interact with us. Most of us learn early on in our development to consider what other people say, to listen and then make decisions based on their facial expressions, words, and actions … here’s the problem ……
Getting out of the house and taking a vacation is an excellent way to spend some quality time with your family and unwind from the humdrum of everyday life. It’s easy to get into routines and just as easy to let the summer slip without the memories you’d really wish you had. If you plan…
How do you know if your relationship is healthy? People often try and find out what is healthy based on what they experienced in their previous relationships. Consciously or not, they often determine health based on what they experienced when growing up in their family of origin. There are many indicators that would help show…
She did 31 full Ironman’s before she won one of them. She won the Ultraman 6.2 mile swim, 260 mile bike, and double marathon 52.4 mile run, she is Hillary Biscay. “Look where you want to go, keep showing up … you’ll…
Overly friendly e-mails. Txts messages that are ‘off record’. Hidden Facebook dialogues. Just friends, right? No, there’s not sex, but these relationships damage marriages and are a slippery slope. Is it infidelity? You bet it is. Traditionally, the work environment has provided the most ideal context and potential for extramarital affairs. But, old flames or…
I was talking recently with a few friends about my role as a therapist and the general nature of the difficulties that people present with. One of the questions they asked was how I as a therapist assess and measure whether or not a client is dabbling in pornography or addicted to pornography. I replied…
Many of my clients, both men and women, come to counseling seeking understanding and curbing of symptoms in their marriages and/or families. Most have their own stories, own perceptions, and own histories. Human beings are complex individuals with relationship histories and pasts that make each one of us all our own. As I have worked with…
I recently had a couple in my office for a variety of issues. We initially started to dialogue and generate some solutions concerning some significant problems they were facing. Their problem began long before their marriage, as I will explain, but had become an acute issue that was taxing their relationship and marriage as well…
I’ve seen a consistent theme with clients that present to my office with sexual addiction. This theme is a significant confusion about how they get their needs met. I find that many if not all of them come with beliefs and assumptions due to their addiction and history. These assumptions are in large part due to their…